More Dating References

Are you back for more? Well here’s more of my take on dating in this messed up world we live. Remember, it’s up to you to make the connection between the examples given and your love life.

It’s Not What You Know

You know that person who’s in a field way above her/his head? I’m talking specifically about the one who got the job merely because they knew someone with an inside track. It’s been said time and time again that who you know is the key to making it in this world. These opportunistic folks use their networks as springboards into the working world because who is going to turn away the friend of a friend of a family member? It’s especially good when the referral comes with the cheat code to the interview, assessment, application process, etc.

Job Mismatch

Every now and then an antisocial person takes a service related job, and even though the personality does not suit the job, this person will tough it out and unhappily stay employed. At the same time, there are those who do not have the skills needed for a particular job but are relatively more productive than others who have similar attributes. See: Nate Robinson (NBA player). In the first case, it is easy to see that maybe not being a personality/skill fit for a job is a good sign to cut and run. Then there will be a Nate Robinson anomaly that will make folks think that all they need to do is work hard and the rewards will come not understanding that Nate Robinson is a freak of nature that comes around every once in a while.

Perfect Match

The contrary to the above is that one person who knows her or his pros and cons, and rather than put up with a career that doesn’t fit, this person goes for the one that fits. The pay may not be great and neither are the perks, but peace of mind is priceless. These people maybe be pressured to find a more “rewarding” profession, but the current one suits them just fine.


Working isn’t for everyone clearly. There are people on all the job sites, mailing lists, and career service companies list of members but the fact remains that employers are not interested in what they have to offer. This is not the fault of the job seeker in many occasions. Those who realize this sometimes find solace in the fact that life is more than working and seek joy in other aspects of living. On the other hand, it’s also true that there are people who own few attractive job skills leading employers to settle on more desirable candidates. The fact remains that in some instances, it’s probably better to remain unemployed than to deal with the continued rejection especially if the income isn’t needed.

I think this is where I will wrap this up. I know this one is not as concise as the previous, but when is the sequel ever up to par with the original?